What Is Mediation?
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Mediation refers to a structured, effective process where you and your spouse hire a “mediator,” who is a neutral, unbiased third party, to help you resolve your differences as they pertain to your divorce. Mediators are typically seasoned attorneys who have decades of experience working with opposing parties in lawsuits and legal proceedings and know how to help both sides effectively reach fair settlements and agreements.
The term “mediation” encompasses the entire mediation process—from the very first conversation you have with your mediator until the very end when you and your spouse reach terms of agreement you can both happily live with.
Mediation is not an official legal proceeding, and what happens during your mediation will never be part of a court record.
How Is Mediation Different from a Typical Divorce?
Unlike traditional divorce proceedings, mediation does not take place in a courtroom. You and your spouse will attend mediation in a neutral place, such as the mediator’s law office or a rented conference room. Often, you and your spouse will spend your mediation in different rooms or offices so your mediator can speak with you freely and you can say what is on your mind.
You can choose to have your Schaumburg divorce attorney attend mediation with you or attend on your own—this is a matter of personal preference.
Mediation also differs from an in-court divorce hearing because the mediator’s role is vastly different from a judge’s. Mediators are skilled communicators who act as a buffer and offer a fresh perspective during divorce negotiations. While they work extremely hard to bring two opposing sides together to find a healthy middle ground, their word is not law, and they cannot order parties to a divorce to do anything. Mediators don’t make final decisions and can only suggest or recommend courses of action.